Having strong toddlers can be hard. Some days it can seem like anything will set them off. Here are ten things you can do to diffuse those toddler tantrums.
1. Avoid the Triggers When You Can
One of the main reasons (of the many reasons) that my son has tantrums is when I say no to giving him snacks. The kid could literally only eat ice pops for every meal. I try to avoid the ice pop tantrums by making sure he doesn't see them before he's allowed to eat them.
2. Don't Give In
I am so guilty of doing this. In the past (more times that I like to admit) while Zhen was having a tantrum, I have gotten so overwhelmed with all of the screaming that I just gave him what he wanted. Since he's so intelligent, that is one of the worst things I can do. It sends the message that all he has to do to get what he wants is to scream and cry. I know it's hard momma, but DO NOT GIVE IN to the tiny tyrants.
3. Show Them Love
Discipline has to balanced with love. I have given Zhen a hug mid-tantrum and it completely threw him off. Now this won't always work because sometimes they are so angry they want nothing to do with you, but it's worth a shot.
4. Get Them Outta There
I haven't had the experience of Zhen completely losing it in a public place like a store, because he's much happier when he's outside. However, I know it will happen one day. When it does, instead of reasoning with him, I plan on giving him a warning that we will leave if he doesn't get it together, and if this doesn't work quietly picking him up and leaving wherever we are. Ain't nobody trying to case a seen.
5. Teach Emotion Words
If your child has the agility to communicate verbally, try to teach them emotion words. Encourage them to communicate their feelings as well as they can. Most kids won't be ready to do this until they are a bit older though.
6. Try Not To Yell
I am so guilty of this. I always thought I wouldn't yell at my kids. Sometimes in the heat of the moment, when a tantrum is particularly nasty, it just comes out. Yelling often makes the situation worse and creates chaos.
7. Take a Deep Breath
This one is as much for you as it is for your toddler. It can be so frustrating and annoying when you feel like nothing you are doing is working when it comes to calming your kid down. Take a few deep breaths, and just try to block the screaming out for a second. Even if you have to step away (of course leaving your toddler in a safe place) it's much better than staying in the heat of the moment.
8. Ignore, Ignore, Ignore
Many toddler think negative attention is better than no attention. Give the positive things they do all of the energy and praise. Ignore the negative behavior (unless it's dangerous of course). The goal is for them to realize that they get more attention with positive behavior.
I would advise giving your child something they want during a tantrum (even something they didn't ask for) because this might seem like a reward. However, drawing their attention to something else might be an easy way to calm them down. I like to ask questions about his toys. Kids love talking about their toys lol.
10. Make Them Laugh
Humor can go a long way. Most kids can go from 100 to 0 as soon as as they start laughing. I