Hey MWC Mommas,
Our interview series is back! It's been a couple of weeks and I've missed it. Getting to know these mommas has been awesome for me. Our next momma is someone that I went to high school with. I remember always thinking how beautiful she is when I saw her around the school. She had this confident energy that I always admired, and I'm so happy to be getting the chance to know her through this series. MWC Mommas, meet Jessica.
Name/ Occupation Jessica Haffner
Planogram expert at target
How old are your kids?
3 years old.
Are you a single momma, do you have a partner, a co-parent, do friends or family help, a mix of all of these, or other? Please explain.
I recently separated from abels father a few months ago and though it’s been such a hard learning curve,we are finally coming into our own and coparenting the best way we know how.
Before you had kids, what ideas did you have about how you would be as a mother?
I imagined myself being the fun adventurous playful mom.
What do you think is the most difficult part about being a mom?
Adjusting to my sons ever changing personality Is by far the hardest For me. I like to think I am a free spirited person but deep down I crave stability and order so I struggle with the stages because it’s hard to plan around meltdowns. One day I have him figured out (or so I think) then he morphs into this whole new tiny human that I have to relearn and help shape. From tantrums to hating clothes then randomly deciding he Hates his favorite food every week it’s a new obstacle but at the end of the day I am so happy I get to watch all of it unfold and I get to call him mine.
What is the best part about being a mom?
The absolute best part about being a mom is watching the person I created love so unconditionally. He has the biggest heart I’ve ever seen and it makes me so happy and proud.
What are some hacks and tips that you use to make daily mom life easier?
Try to make you time. That shouldn’t go to the way side because you have a baby. You still matter!
What are the most annoying daily tasks that you just wish you could make easier? How do you currently handle them?
Meal times have always been a struggle Sadly. He has so much energy he struggles with sitting still to eat
What things do you wish you knew before becoming a mom?
How real the “mom guilt” would be. I felt like everything had to go to my son, My energy my time, my body ... and when I did something I knew society might think or I was told was wrong I would get this overpowering feeling of shame.
How have the moms in your life shaped you and how you are as a mother?
My mother taught me honesty and openness is the best way to parent and I truly believe that. With that door to communication always open in my house growing up I was free to make mistakes, admit to them, correct them and in return actually LEARN from them without fear of punishment. I think this has become a big part of who I am as a person and as a mother. That closeness I have with my mother is something I strive for with Abel.
If there is a mom out there reading this that is struggling, what would you like to tell her?
Don’t over think. At the end of the day even if you feel like you’ve failed as a parent (I have these days so often) I can guarantee you your child still views you as the superhero you are.
Together we can become @momswhochilll