Hey MWC Mommas,
We've made it to part three of our interview series! I am so happy to be able to share the stories of these incredible moms, and learn something along the way. It has been such a blessing ! So happy to introduce this next momma, whose radiant energy I could feel even through social media. Here is our MWC Momma, Nyetta's interview.
Nyetta | Stay-At-Home-Mom How old are your kids? I have three kids, ages 7 yrs old, 3 yrs old, and seven months old. Are you a single momma, do you have a partner, a co-parent, do friends or family help, a mix of all of these, or other? Please explain. I am married to the kid's father, and we've been married for almost seven years. We live in a state with no friends or family, so it's just us. If we get support, it's from my dad driving up from Atlanta to our house to help with the kids. Since its a good drive, this is scarce support as well. Before you had kids, what ideas did you have about how you would be as a mother? I've always been a "kid" type of person, but being a mom is different. I honestly did not understand how hard motherhood could be. So, for me, I thought motherhood would be perfect because I was on the outside looking in. My mother left at an early age, so I did not have an example of motherhood in the household. So, I figured I would be this patience, understanding, and have everything figured out the type of mom.
What do you think is the most challenging part of being a mom?
I think the most challenging part about me being a mom is remembering to take care of myself. I give my all to my family and suffer in silence at times. What is the best part about being a mom? I think to see my kids smile and get so excited to see my face. Kids give you this unconditional love and cherish that feeling every single day.
What are some hacks and tips that you use to make daily mom's life easier? My days are more manageable when I have a plan for the kids. I think kids need some structure even if it's on their terms, so I plan activities with them for us to do for the week. It usually works. Also, I think taking a deep breath before responding helps with the miscommunication between parents and kids. Lastly, giving them a voice because kids are little people that we are raising to become adults.
What are the most annoying daily tasks that you wish you could make easier? How do you currently handle them? Girl! WASHING DISHES. I'm not too fond of washing dishes. I use the dishwasher, but everything does not go in the dishwasher. I cook a lot at home, so I am using pots and pans at least for two of our meals each day. If they could make disposal pans, that would help me a lot. 🙃 What things do you wish you knew before becoming a mom? I wish I knew about your feet growing after having kids and my mother's birth experiences. How have the moms in your life shaped you and how you are as a mother? As I stated, my mom removed her self from my life at an early age, but she did help shape me into the mother I am today. I hold on to what I was missing from her growing up, and that has shaped me into a loving, patience (sometimes), and understanding mother. I make sure I am present for my kids, even in the house. I stop what I am doing or things I have personally planned for myself to make sure they understand I will always be present as long as I am alive.
If there is a mom out there reading this that is struggling, what would you like to tell her? Throw the cape in the trash, because no mom is perfect. Ignore the world's expectations of motherhood and don't compare yourself to others. Do your best, and if you need help, don't be afraid to ask for help. Do not feel like a bad mother when you have a bad day. Find a way to reset and prepare for the next day. It is okay to cry about the stresses of motherhood. Find moms like you and connect with them.
Together we can become @momswhochilll